Are you a SEX ADDICT? Take the quiz!

Be 100% honest!  You ARE just hanging around in a hotel room...alone, I hope!

Men's Sexual Screening Addiction Test


By Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. and Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT



The screening test below is designed to help you self-identify a potential sexual addiction problem. It offers an overview of concerns frequently presented by both men and women seeking help for problem sexual behavior.



Instructions

Answer each question by placing a check in the appropriate yes/no column. Questions with an asterisk* are not related to sexual orientation. Answering yes to more than 3 questions may indicate a sexual addiction problem, which should be openly discussed with a trained sexual addiction specialist.



Questions





Do you believe you have a sexual problem? *

Do you often justify or minimize the extent or type of your sexual and romantic behaviors to yourself or others?

Do you often find yourself preoccupied and distracted by sexual thoughts when you do not wish to be?

Do you regret the time and energy you spend in the pursuit of sex or romance?

Has paying for sex ever challenged your finances?

Have your sexual or romantic behaviors ever caused physical or emotional harm to anyone - including spouses and long-term partners?

Do you have trouble stopping any aspects of your sexual behavior even though it may go against your values and beliefs or even cause you harm? *

Is your involvement with pornography, phone sex, online sexual interactions, etc. greater than your intimate contacts with romantic partners?

Do you keep the extent and/or nature of your sexual behavior a secret from your intimate friends and/or partners?

Are you eager for events with friends or family to be over so that you can leave to have sexual adventures?

Do you regularly go to strip clubs, sexual bathhouses, sex clubs and/or adult bookstores?

Do you believe that pornography and anonymous or casual sex have kept you from having more long-term intimate relationships or from reaching other personal goals?

Do you have trouble maintaining sexual interest or intimacy once the "newness" of the person has worn off?

Do your sexual encounters ever put you in danger of arrest (e.g. seeing prostitutes, sensual massage, having sex in a public place)?

Do you have unprotected sex with prostitutes and/or anonymous partners (please consider unprotected as: oral, anal and vaginal experiences without protection)?

Has your sexual behavior ever caused physical or emotional harm to others (Examples include: lying to a spouse, breaking your commitments, giving people diseases, etc.)?

Have you ever been approached, charged and/or arrested by police or other security personnel as a consequence of your sexual behavior choices?

As an adult, have you ever been sexual with someone under the age of 18?

After you have sex, do you sometimes feel depressed afterward or become angry with yourself about what you have done? *

Have you made repeated promises to yourself to change some form of your sexual behavior only to break those promises later? *

Has your sexual behavior ever interfered with some aspect of your professional or personal life? *

If questioned, do you lie to those close to you about your sexual behavior? *


Do you routinely pay for sex (examples: have ësensual massagesí, see prostitutes)?


Have you ever had sex with someone just because the situation aroused you, yet later felt shame or regret for doing so? *


Do you regularly cruise, public restrooms, parks, and/or red-light districts seeking anonymous sexual encounters?

Be Prepared!

Temptation always strikes when you travel. It may not be every time you are on the road, but it happens often enough that you probably can't even identify it when it hits. Does it strike early in the day? mid-afternoon? evening? late night? Satan is so good that he knows exactly when to plant the seed. Soemtimes that's all he needs to do -- just plant it and let you do the rest. It can even happen weeks before your trip! Men - we must be aware and be prepared!!!! Once our guard comes down, sin can step in. How can we be prepared? First, pray. Pray Pray Pray! God can give you the strength to get out of any jam you are in. Second, protect your eyes and ears. Even a slightly inappropriate joke can be a trigger for acting out. Third, have a plan. Know your "exit strategy" - turn and run when needed. Its ok to say "no" to a drink at the bar, its ok to say "no" to flirting with a woman, its ok to say "no" to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and that you know is wrong. I learned the hard way.

Traveling Man

Men – I know firsthand how lonely the road is! I traveled weekly for 8 years – I know all about the temptations that hit you while away. Satan never leaves you alone and you cannot defeat him alone! I attended the first part of a marriage conference tonight and the speakers were talking about the belt of truth (Eph 6). We as traveling men have a very hard time telling the FULL truth to anyone. How many times do you call home, chat for awhile, hang up and then go out? Or look at porn? Or invite a woman into your room? It happens all the time…and our spouses have no clue. There is freedom from the lies and "acting out" – but it is impossible to do alone!